The modern discussion of narcissism often takes place within psychology, describing an inflated sense of self-importance, constant need for admiration, and lack of empathy. Yet these destructive traits were identified centuries ago within Islamic teachings under different terms: kibr (arrogance), ‘ujb (self-admiration), and an unrestrained nafs (ego). Islam, as both a faith and a way of life, provides profound insights into these inner diseases of the heart and prescribes remedies that nurture humility, compassion, and balance.
In the Qur’an, arrogance and self-glorification are presented as among the most dangerous traits. Allah says:
“Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.” (Qur’an 4:36)
“Do not walk upon the earth arrogantly. Indeed, you will never tear the earth [apart], and you will never reach the mountains in height.” (Qur’an 17:37)
These verses highlight how arrogance blinds a person to their true limitations and their dependence on the Creator. Narcissism, in its essence, is a form of self-delusion, a denial of the reality that all strength and beauty belong only to Allah.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ warned his followers about the spiritual dangers of arrogance and pride. He said:
“No one who has an atom’s weight of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise.”
(Sahih Muslim)
When asked to define arrogance, the Prophet ﷺ explained:
“It is rejecting the truth and looking down upon people.”
(Sahih Muslim)
This definition reflects the very core of narcissism: the dismissal of others’ worth and an exaggerated sense of superiority.
Another closely related disease is ‘ujb—self-admiration. While arrogance often involves comparison to others, ‘ujb can manifest even when a person is alone, through constant self-praise and feelings of moral or intellectual infallibility. Ibn al-Qayyim, the great scholar of spirituality, described ‘ujb as more dangerous than sins, because while a sinner may repent in humility, the one filled with ‘ujb sees no fault within themselves.
The Qur’an also warns against self-righteousness:
“So do not claim yourselves to be pure; He is most knowing of who fears Him.” (Qur’an 53:32)
This verse directly addresses the narcissistic impulse to present oneself as flawless and superior.
The destructive effects of narcissism extend beyond the individual to families and communities. The Prophet ﷺ emphasized mercy, empathy, and service to others as the foundations of healthy relationships. He said:
“The merciful are shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One above the heavens will have mercy upon you.”
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi)
A narcissistic person, who seeks to dominate relationships and feed their ego, violates this Prophetic ethic of mercy. Instead of uniting people through compassion, narcissism fractures bonds through manipulation and selfishness.
Islam does not call for self-loathing, however. Confidence and dignity (‘izzah) are encouraged, but always rooted in gratitude to Allah. The Qur’an affirms:
“Honor belongs to Allah and to His Messenger and to the believers.” (Qur’an 63:8)
True dignity, then, is not in self-worship but in submission to Allah. The believer is taught to acknowledge blessings, not with pride, but with humility and thanks:
“Whatever blessing you have is from Allah.” (Qur’an 16:53)
The cure for narcissism lies in cultivating humility (tawadu‘) and constant remembrance of Allah. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whoever humbles himself for the sake of Allah, Allah will raise him in rank.”
(Sahih Muslim)
Humility here is not weakness, but a strength rooted in the recognition of one’s dependence on the Creator. It softens the heart, opens one to self-critique, and strengthens empathy toward others.
Practical remedies prescribed in the Islamic tradition include remembering death, reflecting on one’s sins rather than others’ faults, engaging in acts of service, and keeping company with the humble. The Qur’an praises those who walk the earth with gentleness:
“The servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth humbly, and when the ignorant address them harshly, they say words of peace.” (Qur’an 25:63)
In this verse, humility is portrayed not as weakness, but as dignity and inner strength.
From an Islamic perspective, narcissism is more than a psychological trait—it is a spiritual ailment that blinds the heart, corrupts relationships, and distances a person from Allah. The Qur’an and Sunnah provide both diagnosis and cure, reminding us that honor and elevation come not from self-glorification but from submission, humility, and service. In an age where self-promotion is often celebrated, Islam’s timeless wisdom calls us back to a different path: one where true greatness is found in humbling oneself before Allah and uplifting others.
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