Monday 17 June 2024

Coping with Repeated Bereavements in Islam: A Journey of Faith and Resilience

 



Experiencing repeated bereavements is one of life's most challenging trials. The pain of losing loved ones can be overwhelming, leaving a profound impact on our emotional and spiritual well-being. In Islam, there are teachings and practices that provide comfort, strength, and guidance to help believers navigate these difficult times. This blog post explores how to cope with repeated bereavements in Islam, drawing on the wisdom of the Quran and Hadith, and offering practical steps for healing and resilience.

1. Embrace Faith in Divine Decree (Qadr)
Belief in Qadr, or divine decree, is a cornerstone of Islamic faith. Muslims believe that everything happens according to Allah’s will and wisdom, even if the reasons are not immediately apparent. This belief can bring comfort and acceptance in the face of loss.

Quranic Insight:
"No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allah." (Quran 57:22)

Embracing this belief helps us understand that our losses are part of a greater divine plan, offering solace and perspective.

2. Cultivate Patience (Sabr)
Patience, or sabr, is a highly esteemed virtue in Islam, especially during times of hardship. Practicing sabr involves maintaining faith, performing regular prayers, and trusting in Allah’s plan.

Quranic Insight:
"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient." (Quran 2:155)

Cultivating patience helps us endure the pain of loss with dignity and faith, knowing that Allah rewards those who remain steadfast.

3. Seek Comfort in Supplication (Dua)
Making dua, or supplication, is a powerful way to seek comfort and assistance from Allah. Expressing our grief, seeking strength, and asking for guidance through prayer can be very therapeutic.

Hadith Guidance:
"There is no Muslim who is afflicted with a calamity and says what Allah has commanded him, 'Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un (To Allah we belong and to Him we shall return)' and then says, 'O Allah, reward me for my affliction and compensate me with something better' but Allah will compensate him with something better." (Muslim)

Turning to Allah in prayer provides a direct line of comfort and hope, helping us to bear our losses with faith.

4. Engage in the Remembrance of Allah (Dhikr)
Engaging in dhikr, or the remembrance of Allah, can bring peace to the heart. Regularly reciting phrases such as "SubhanAllah," "Alhamdulillah," "Allahu Akbar," and "La ilaha illallah" can soothe emotional pain.

Quranic Insight:
"Those who believe and whose hearts find comfort in the remembrance of Allah. Surely in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find comfort." (Quran 13:28)

Dhikr helps to shift our focus from grief to gratitude, fostering a sense of inner peace.

5. Seek Community Support
Islam emphasizes the importance of community and mutual support. Seeking help from family, friends, and the Muslim community can provide emotional relief and practical assistance.

Hadith Guidance:
"The example of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever." (Bukhari and Muslim)

Connecting with others who understand and care can significantly ease the burden of grief.

6. Perform Charitable Acts (Sadaqah)
Engaging in charitable acts and good deeds on behalf of the deceased can provide a sense of purpose and connection. This can be a way to honor their memory and find solace.

Hadith Guidance:
"When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (continuous charity), knowledge which is beneficial, or a virtuous descendant who prays for him." (Muslim)

Acts of charity in memory of the deceased can create a lasting legacy and bring comfort to the bereaved.

7. Reflect on Life and Hereafter
Reflecting on the transient nature of this life and the permanence of the hereafter can offer perspective. Belief in the afterlife and the hope of reunion with loved ones can provide hope and consolation.

Quranic Insight:
"Every soul shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful." (Quran 3:185)

Understanding that this life is a temporary journey and that eternal peace awaits can help ease the pain of loss.

Coping with repeated bereavements is undeniably challenging, but Islamic teachings offer a profound framework for finding comfort and resilience. By embracing faith in divine decree, practicing patience, seeking comfort in supplication and remembrance, leaning on community support, performing charitable acts, and reflecting on the hereafter, Muslims can navigate their grief with hope and strength. May Allah grant patience and ease to all those who are grieving, and may He shower His mercy upon the departed souls.

Friday 14 June 2024

What is True Love? | Islamic Psychology

 


“Did the narcissist ever love you?”

To answer this properly, I have taken a deep dive into what love is and means from an Islamic perspective and I compare it to what God teaches us about toxic relationships, so we can understand what is healthy love and what isn’t.

Thursday 13 June 2024

The Psychological Tricks of Satan: An Islamic Perspective - Shaykh Hamza Yusuf

 

Shaykh Hamza Yusuf discusses how Shaytaan promises poverty and instills anxiety in people. He explains that anxiety is the foundational state of humanity and that all human actions are driven by the desire to alleviate anxiety. Additionally, he emphasizes that Shaytan’s promises are false and that the only true anxiety should be regarding death.

Anxiety is an inherent aspect of the human condition. From birth, humans experience anxiety and seek ways to alleviate it throughout their lives. Understanding this foundational state can help individuals navigate their anxieties and make conscious choices.

Fear of missing out on pleasure drives individuals to fulfill their desires as a way to alleviate anxiety. This can lead to impulsive decision-making and a constant quest for more, as individuals fear the potential loss of pleasure.

No amount of wealth can satisfy human desires, as individuals always want more. This insatiable desire for material possessions stems from the anxiety of poverty and the fear of being deprived. Recognizing the futility of this pursuit can help individuals find contentment in their current circumstances.

Thursday 6 June 2024

When Allah Guided the Children of Abu Lahab | The Firsts | Dr. Omar Suleiman

 


The only enemy of the Prophet ﷺ mentioned by name in the Quran, yet his own children became Muslim and would read about their father’s punishment. The incredible story of the believing children of the Prophet ﷺ's uncle and how he received them.

Wednesday 5 June 2024

PROF. SEYED MOHAMMAD MARANDI ON IRAN-ISRAEL WAR TENSIONS AND COLLAPSING US MIDDLE EAST SUPREMACY

 


 Seyed Mohammad Marandi, Professor of English Literature and Orientalism at the University of Tehran and advisor to Iran's nuclear negotiations team (https://x.com/s_m_marandi) joins to discuss the true motives of Iran as geopolitical tensions reach an all-time high amid the most brutal Israeli-US war in a generation. 

Tuesday 4 June 2024

Dear Zionist commentator..........

 


Dear Zionist commentator, who repeats something he or she copied from someone else. 


1. Yes, if it means so much to you, I can share with you how saddened I was that Israelis were killed on October 7th, by Hamas and by the IDF itself. Very sad. I mean every word. I regret every loss of life. I have asked an Israeli Rabbi on camera to tell me about those events and I honestly do feel sorry for the all the people who suffered that day, though, admittedly, less so for the ones serving in the IDF since I do think IDF soldiers are a perfectly legitimate target for the Palestinian resistance. You're already itching to write another thing you have copied from someone else, but wait, there is more.


2. No, I don't condemn Israeli crimes because I hate jews, I am in fact heavily influenced by jewish culture, my work (psychotherapy) is practically the jewish talking cure and am literally surrounded by books written by jewish authors, mostly on psychology, also lots of books on the Holocaust. Culturally I am also very influenced by jews. I have never in any way discriminated against any jew. It wouldn't even occur to me. I have shared dinners with jews, I have joked with jews, I have helped jews find a job... You can call me a jew hater all you want, but the punch doesn't land. 


3. I did visit Nazi concentration camps and yes, I was horrified. I've also watched just about every Holocaust movie there is and it breaks my heart every time, yes, really. Some parts of Edith Eger's books haunt me to this day. Unfortunately I have most likely read more books on the Holocaust than you did and from an earlier age without anyone pushing me to do so.


4. I sadly have only 24 hours in a day and I do not get paid to write about every single crime happening in this world. I have never been to Sudan. Maybe I should. I have been to Israel, I have met Israelis and I have met Palestinians, I have not met any Sudanese. If any Sudanese are reading this, please come on my podcast and we can talk about the challenges of your country too. I did write about Syria, but you likely do not speak Dutch, so there is no way for you to really check, even though you are quick to claim I have never written about it. Oh, and my X account is not the alpha and omega of what I stand for. Some of you seem to think X is a full record of everything I have done in my life. Generally I prefer to not write about things I didn't study, I am a very modest, humble person who is often very criticial of his own opinions and thought processes, but on some things I consider myself an expert and that happens to inculude Palestine and Israel. I understand why you'd wish I had studied a different genocide. I know a lot about the holocaust and things like Srebrenica as well if that makes it any better.

 
5. Nothing I say or do will ever make it any better of course, because the truth of the matter is that you don't want anyone criticizing Israel and will find any reason at all to try and deny people the right to criticize Israel. I wish you could understand how your manipulative tactics only make me see Israel in an even worse light.


6. Your mentioning of the Hamas charter means extremely little to me. There are some very fishy passages in the Bible and I don't hold those against all Christians either. Hamas has stated that they are not out to kill all Jews. I agree you can call me naive, really, please do, am a good person and a good person is often a bit naive, but I believe them. I don't think Hamas wants to kill all Jews. Maybe some few do. Just like am sure we can easily find some Israelis who want to kill all Palestinians. Those are not very shy on social media channels. 


7. I frankly don't care how many people voted for Hamas, even if they all voted for Hamas ten times in the same election it would still be wrong for you to bomb women and kids. Am sure the kids you're killing didn't vote for Hamas. Also, if you make circumstances bad enough people will vote for any party who at least makes those circumstances a little bit better in the short term
8. Hamas does not pose an existential risk to Israel. Israel did not have to react. Even on the purely strategic level it was a dumb thing for Israel to do. Look how much it's already damaging Israel. I know it's hard to accept that slaughtering thousands is not the right strategy, since you're enjoying it so much, but it's not working.


9. Comparisions between bombing Gaza and the Second world war are ridiculous. Hamas doesn't come close to being the threat Nazi-Germany was. I would also argue that the average German citizen still had a better chance to escape allied bombardments than the average city in Gaza. If I have to bombed in Germany anno 1945 or bombed in Gaza anno 2024 I will take my chances in Germany. Yes, America dropped nuclear bombs, I personally think those were overkill and a war crime, but even if am wrong on that, what you've done to Gaza is far worse. Again, because Hamas does not pose the threat imperial Japan did. 


10. The Palestinians rejected every peace deal ever made to them... Am not Palestinian so I can't say what is an acceptable deal and what isn't. As someone who is not Palestinian there is MAYBE a deal I would have accepted, but again, my family wasn't terrorized by Israel (at least not so far). Them rejecting peace deals still doesn't make it morally right to do things that could indeed annihilate them as a people. Plus, if Israel was ever serious about peace there should not be a single Israeli settler in all of the West Bank. 


11. No, you don't have to kill everyone for it to be genocide. This is genocide: 'New conceptions require new terms. By "genocide" we mean the destruction  of a nation or of an ethnic group. This new word, coined by the author  to denote an old practice in its modern development, is made from the  ancient Greek word genos (race, tribe) and the Latin cide  (killing), thus corresponding in its formation to such words as  tyrannicide, homicide, infanticide, etc. Generally speaking, genocide  does not necessarily mean the immediate destruction of a nation, except  when accomplished by mass killings of all members of a nation. It is  intended rather to signify a coordinated plan of different actions  aiming at the destruction of essential foundations of the life of  national groups, with the aim of annihilating the groups themselves. The  objectives of such a plan would be the disintegration of the political  and social institutions, of culture, language, national feelings,  religion, and the economic existence of national groups, and the  destruction of the personal security, liberty, health, dignity, and even  the lives of the individuals belonging to such groups. Genocide is  directed against the national group as an entity, and the actions  involved are directed against individuals, not in their individual  capacity, but as members of the national group.' Raphael Lemkin, a jewish lawyer. His definition fits perfectly and what Israel has done counts as genocide. Full stop. 


12. Control over Gaza was never given back to the Palestinians. Yes, a small number of Israeli settlers had to leave and were forcibly evicted by the IDF, but at the same time Israel injected more settlers into the West Bank. The Gazans didn't have full control of their sea coast nor of their air space. Gaza was only given back because it was too difficult to control it from the inside, so instead Israel opted to wall it in as much as possible. With the excuse always been every restriction was an anti-terrorist precaution. Then it monitored Palestinians, killed them when they protested peacefully and from time to time the IDF waltzed in and 'mowed the lawn'. At the same time Palestinian communities in the West Bank were more and more cut off from each other and Palestinian territory was fragmentized. If you treat people like shit some will fight back. 


13. Yes, Israel was founded thanks to the use of terrorism. Strange that terrorism was ok then, but is never ok now 


14. I don't care if you slit someone's throat or drop a bomb on then from a multi million dollar aircraft, both can be terrorism.


15. Yes, I really do think you don't want to admit you like it when a lot of Palestinians die. Am very open to you showing how much you care about Palestinian lives. 


16. Since you keep asking me to show outrage over Armenia, Darfur and a whole list of other horrible man-made catastrophes please link to your amazing articles and videos you have made over the years explaining and condemning all those crimes. It would be very helpful. Thank you. 


17. I haven't reread what I have written (yet), since I now have to go be of service to others in order to put food on the table for my family, but if you find a typo and you call me a moron, because I mispelled something, then it still doesn't mean your murdering of kids is ok. But to give you some ammo in your fight to not care about dead kids, here is already one typo: Israel murderererererers kids on purpose to plunge the Palestinians into despair. It's a deliberate strategy.

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