Wednesday 18 November 2020

Are you Following The Crowd?


When Umar bin al-Khattab (ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡) was walking in the market, he passed by a man who was supplicating,
ุงู„ู„ู‡ู… ุงุฌุนู„ู†ูŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ุงู„ู„ู‡ู… ุงุฌุนู„ู†ูŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ู‚ู„ูŠู„
“O Allah, make me from the few!
O Allah make me from the few!”
So ‘Umar said to him;
“Where did you get this du`a’ (supplication) from?”
And the man said;
“Allah in His Book says:
ูˆ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู† ุนุจุงุฏูŠ ุงู„ุดูƒูˆุฑ
‘And few of My servants are grateful.’
(Qur’an 34:13)”
So ‘Umar wept and admonished himself;
“The people are more knowledgeable than you, O Umar!
O Allah make us from Your ‘few’ servants.”
Sometimes when you advise someone to leave a sin, they respond with “But everybody does it, it’s not just me!”
But if you look for the words “most people” in the Qur’an, you will find that most people -
ูˆู„ูƒู† ุงูƒุซุฑู‡ู… ู„ุง ูŠุนู„ู…ูˆู†
“And however most people do not know” (7:187)
ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฃูƒุซุฑู‡ู… ู„ุง ูŠุดูƒุฑูˆู†
- “and most people do not show gratitude” (2:243)
ูˆ ู„ูƒู† ุงูƒุซุฑ ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ู„ุง ูŠุคู…ู†ูˆู†
- “and most people do not believe” (11:17).
And if you look for “most of them”, you will find that most of them are
ูˆ ุงูٓ† ุฃูƒุซุฑู‡ู… ูَุงุณِู‚ُูˆู†
- “definitely disobedient” (5:59)
ูˆ ู„ูƒู† ุฃูƒุซุฑู‡ู… ูŠุฌู‡ู„ูˆู†
- “ ignorant” (6:111)
ุจู„ ุฃูƒุซุฑู‡ู… ู„ุง ูŠุนู„ู…ูˆู† ุงู„ุญู‚ ูู‡ู… ู…ุนุฑุถูˆู†
- “turning away” (21:24)
So be of the “few”, whom Allah says about them:
ูˆ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู† ุนุจุงุฏูŠ ุงู„ุดูƒูˆุฑ
- “And few of My servants are grateful.” (34:13)
ูˆ ู…ุง ุงู…ู† ู…ุนู‡ ุงู„ุง ู‚ู„ูŠู„
- “But none had believed with him, except a few.” (11:40)
ููŠ ุฌู†ุงุช ุงู„ู†ุนูŠู… ุซู„ุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุงูˆู„ูŠู† ูˆ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู† ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูŠู†
- “In the Gardens of Bliss, A [large] company of the former peoples, And a few of the later peoples.”
❝Go on the path of truth and do not feel lonely because there are few who take that path, and beware of the path of falsehood and do not be deceived by the vastness of the perishers.❞
- Ibn al-Qayyim ุฑุญู…ู‡ ุงู„ู„ู‡
Found in Kitab al-Zuhd by Ahmad bin Hanbal (ุฑุญู…ู‡ ุงู„ู„ู‡), and also in the Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shaybah.
๐Ÿคฒ May Allah make us of His few who are grateful, obedient and believers till our last breath - Allahumma ameen!

From Ideal Muslimah

Tuesday 17 November 2020

Domestic Abuse: What You Need to Know (Podcast)


 “This is not a Muslim issue, this is everywhere. But, we need to seriously address this issue…There needs to be an awareness of working together.”

 On this week’s TMV Podcast, Cheif Editor Salim Kassam speaks to Canadian psychotherapist and counsellor Berak Hussain on domestic abuse and everything you need to know about a topic that is often labeled as ‘taboo’, and why the Muslim community must step up with this issue.

Listen to the full podcast below:


Tuesday 10 November 2020

“Do you apologise for the killings of the Charlie Hebdo staff and police?”


Habib ‘Ali Zayn al-‘Abidin ibn ‘Abd ar-Rahman al-Jifri was asked, “Do you apologise for the killings of the Charlie Hebdo staff and police?”  Charlie Hebdo is the magazine that ran cartoons denigrating the Prophet (s.a.w.), and routinely insults Muslims, immigrants and minorities.

He replied, “We condemn the crime that was committed, we regret that it happened, and our condolences go to the families of the victims.  But we will not apologise for something we did not do.  This is a battle of which we have no part.

If the above question was asked because the perpetrators were Muslim and, therefore, Muslims should apologise, then we must also remember that among the victims was a Muslim policeman, and there was a Muslim store worker who helped save the lives of a number of hostages.

If the above question was asked because the perpetrators and those who claimed the attack justified it as being for the defence of Islam, and, therefore, this somehow implicates the Muslim community, then we must also remember that thousands of Palestinian civilians and children were killed in the name of the ‘Biblical right’ of establishing a Jewish state and Palestinian civilians were killed in the name of ‘self-defence’, yet we do not hold all Jews responsible for the crimes of the occupier.  Iraq was obliterated in the name of a ‘crusade’, ‘democratisation’, and the promotion of ‘human rights’ while thousands of Afghan and Iraqi civilians were killed as ‘collateral damage’.  Despite this, we do not accept that the people of West carry the blame and responsibility for these crimes.

There is a difference between our responsibility and duty to expend our efforts in explaining truth, and clarifying wrong, erroneous ideology; and responding to the lies that today’s Khwarij present as being Islam, and; attempts to place responsibility for what happened on Islam and its scholars and preachers.
What we need, and what the world needs, is to stand side by side in facing up to the terrorism perpetrated by organised movements, and the terrorism that is committed by states.  The killing of innocent civilians will always be a crime, even if a state is the one doing it.

In closing, we will not accept the attempts of some people to make us feel shame at our religion nor will we accept being put in positions where we are expected to take responsibility for the actions of extremist movements.”

From A Muslim Convet Once More

Thursday 5 November 2020

WHAT WAS OUR PROPHET ุตَู„َّู‰ ุงู„ู„َّู‡ُ ุนَู„َูŠْู‡ِ ูˆَุณَู„َّู…َ LIKE?


• He was the mildest of people and also the warmest and most generous of them.
• He would fix his own sandals, patch his own clothes and help his family with the daily errands.
• He was very shy; shyer than a virgin in her chamber.
• He would respond to the invitation of slaves.
• He would visit the sick.
• He would walk alone [without guards].
• He would allow others to saddle-up with him on his mount.
• He would accept gifts.
• He would eat food that was sent as a gift; but he never consumed anything that had been given as charity.
• He did not have enough dates with which to be satisfied, nor was he satisfied with barley-bread for more than three consecutive days.
• He would eat whatever food was readily available.
• He never criticized food.
• He never ate lying down, and ate whatever was closest to him.
• He loved perfumes and disliked foul odors.
• He honored people of virtue, and kept affectionate ties with nobles and dignitaries.
• He never rejected anyone and would accept the excuse of those who presented excuses.
• He would joke, but never would he utter anything untrue.
• He laughed, but not loudly.
• He would not let any time pass without being in the service of God or being engaged in whatever was essential for his own self-development.
• He never cursed women, nor abused servants.
• He never hit anyone, except for in jihad in God’s cause.
• He did not perform revenge for his own sake, but did so when God’s limits had been transgressed.
• If he was presented with two options he took the easier of the two, unless it entailed disobedience or the severing of ties – in which case he would be the furthest away from it.
• He would sit in an assembly wherever it was convenient and would mingle among his Companions as one of them, so much so that when strangers came, they couldn’t tell him from others, except after inquiring as to who he was.
• He would take to long periods of silence, but when he did speak he did so slowly and clearly, repeating himself so that he would be understood.
• He used to pardon, even when he was in a position to punish.
• He wouldn’t confront anyone with what they did not like.
• He was the most truthful of men.
• He was the one who most fulfilled his trusts, pledges and commitments.
• He was the easiest going of people; the most affable; and the most generous in friendship.
• Whoever looked at him unexpectedly, was amazed by him.
• Whoever knew him, loved him.
• His Companions, whenever they spoke about worldly affairs, he would join in with them; and when, in recollecting their pre-Islamic days, they would laughed, he would simply smile.
• He was also the bravest of men. One of his Companions recounts: When the fighting grew intense, we would seek shelter behind God’s Messenger.

Source: Summary of Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasideen by Imam Ibn Qudamah (pp. 157-158)

Wednesday 4 November 2020

Extremism/Exaggeration (ุงู„ุบู„ูˆ ููŠ ุงู„ุฏูŠู†) - 10 Ayat & Hadiths

Religion is like Medicine:
- An Overdoses will KILL you.
- The right amount will SAVE you.
- Without it you'll SUFFER in illness.

1- The Prophet said:
‏ ุฃَู„ุงَ ู‡َู„َูƒَ ุงู„ْู…ُุชَู†َุทِّุนُูˆู†َ
"Beware! The extremists perished!", saying it three times.
["Abu Dawud", 4608 - authentic ุตุญูŠุญ]

2- It says in the Qur'an:
ู„َุง ุชَุบْู„ُูˆุง ูِูŠ ุฏِูŠู†ِูƒُู…ْ
"Do not go to extremes in your religion." [Qur'an 4:171].

3- The Prophet said:
ูˆَุฅِูŠَّุงูƒُู…ْ ูˆَุงู„ْุบُู„ُูˆَّ ูِูŠ ุงู„ุฏِّูŠู†ِ ูَุฅِู†َّู…َุง ุฃَู‡ْู„َูƒَ ู…َู†ْ ูƒَุงู†َ ู‚َุจْู„َูƒُู…ُ ุงู„ْุบُู„ُูˆُّ ูِูŠ ุงู„ุฏِّูŠู†ِ
"And beware of going to extremes in religious matters, for those who came before you were destroyed because of going to extremes in religious matters."
["Nasai", 3057 - authentic ุตุญูŠุญ]

4- It says in the Qur'an:
ูŠُุฑِูŠุฏُ ุงู„ู„َّู‡ُ ุจِูƒُู…ُ ุงู„ْูŠُุณْุฑَ ูˆَู„َุง ูŠُุฑِูŠุฏُ ุจِูƒُู…ُ ุงู„ْุนُุณْุฑَ
"God wants ease for you, and wants not hardship for you." [Qur'an 2:185].

5- The Prophet said:
ุฅِู†َّ ุงู„ุฏِّูŠู†َ ูŠُุณْุฑٌ، ูˆَู„َู†ْ ูŠُุดَุงุฏَّ ุงู„ุฏِّูŠู†َ ุฃَุญَุฏٌ ุฅِู„ุงَّ ุบَู„َุจَู‡ُ
"Religion is very easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will be defeated by it."
["Sahih Bukhari", 39].

6- It says in the Qur'an:
ูˆَู…َุง ุฌَุนَู„َ ุนَู„َูŠْูƒُู…ْ ูِูŠ ุงู„ุฏِّูŠู†ِ ู…ِู†ْ ุญَุฑَุฌٍ
"[God] has not laid upon you any hardship in religion." [Qur'an 22:78].

7- Aishah said:
 ู…َุง ุฎُูŠِّุฑَ ุฑَุณُูˆู„ُ ุงู„ู„َّู‡ِ ุตู„ู‰ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู„ูŠู‡ ูˆุณู„ู… ุจَูŠْู†َ ุฃَู…ْุฑَูŠْู†ِ ุฅِู„ุงَّ ุฃَุฎَุฐَ ุฃَูŠْุณَุฑَู‡ُู…َุง، ู…َุง ู„َู…ْ ูŠَูƒُู†ْ ุฅِุซْู…ًุง
"Whenever God's Messenger (๏ทบ) was given the choice of one of two matters, he would choose the easier of the two, as long as it was not sinful to do so."
["Sahih Bukhari", 3560].

8- It says in the Qur'an:
ูˆَูƒَุฐَٰู„ِูƒَ ุฌَุนَู„ْู†َุงูƒُู…ْ ุฃُู…َّุฉً ูˆَุณَุทًุง
"This is how We made you a moderate nation." [Qur'an 2:143].

9- The Prophet said:
‏ ูŠَุณِّุฑُูˆุง ูˆَู„ุงَ ุชُุนَุณِّุฑُูˆุง، ูˆَุจَุดِّุฑُูˆุง ูˆَู„ุงَ ุชُู†َูِّุฑُูˆุง
"Facilitate things to people (concerning religious matters), and do not make it hard for them and give them good tidings and do not make them run away (from Islam)."
["Sahih Bukhari", 69].

10- The Prophet said:
ุฎูŠุฑُ ุฏูŠู†ِูƒู… ุฃูŠุณَุฑُู‡
"The best of your faith is the easiest."
["Ahmad", 15371 - authentic ุฅุณู†ุงุฏู‡ ุตุญูŠุญ]. 

Monday 2 November 2020

Our Mothers, Our Role Models


Virgin Mary ุนู„ูŠู‡ุง ุงู„ุณَّู„ุงู… miraculously bore Jesus ๏ทบ, one of the most incredible men to walk the planet, but she was never married. 

Ayesha ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡ุง had an incredible marriage, but she was never a mother. She was also a widow. 

Asiyah ุนู„ูŠู‡ุง ุงู„ุณَّู„ุงู… was an adoptive mother to Moses๏ทบ, but was married to a tyrannical husband.

The blessed Prophetic father ๏ทบ of Hajar's ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡ุง son Ismail ๏ทบ was alive but physically separated from them and so she essentially raised her son as a single mother.

Eve ุนู„ูŠู‡ุง ุงู„ุณู„ุงู… had one child who was committed to morality, and she another who must have torn her heart out when he murdered his own brother. 

Zaynab bint Jahsh ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡ุง was divorced, but then remarried the best man on earth 

Fatima ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡ุง was repeatedly described as the most devoted daughter in addition to her roles as wife and mother. 

Khadija ุฑุถูŠ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนู†ู‡ุง had the most amazing husband ๏ทบ with the most amazing children and the most compassionate, passionate marriage.

The Queen of Sheba  ุฑุญูŠู…ู‡ุง ุงู„ู„ู‡ is described in the Quran in connection with her position, but not explicitly in connection to marriage or motherhood.

God gave us examples in history of some of the most spiritually elevated women in different types of single/married or motherhood/less situations.

It is unjust for our community to portray a woman's piety being connected solely to her marriage or motherhood status when even some of the most important figures of our history did not fulfill some of our community's contemporary expectations. Yes, marriage and motherhood are so important. But not every woman will experience them, nor find happiness in them. That is not commentary on her worth or the level of her connection to Allah. 

Sisters: God knows your life circumstances, even when everyone looking in from the outside have no idea of your pain, of your frustration or your confusion or your burning duaa. And I know many of you deal with pressure constantly. But instead of feeling crippled when you're overwhelmed, focus on these women. God gave us their myriad of examples for a reason. Let's draw our strength from them and renew our commitment to Him and to working for His sake regardless of our status.

From the FB of Maryam Amir